ENFJ - The Giver

General:

​ENFJs are lively and enthusiastic facilitators who apply warmth and vision to helping people and meeting their needs. They are aware of people’s aspirations and develop plans of action to make those aspirations into reality. They like organization and closure.  ENFJs are tolerant and appreciative of others, seeking involvement with them in life’s task. They are their best facilitation situations that require interpersonal sensitivity. 

 

Living:

ENFJ children want life to be cooperative, friendly, harmonious, and lively. They are often responsible because the like to please others and meet their needs. They are upset by conflicts.  They enjoy social interaction. ENFJ teenagers are constantly on the go, participating in many, many things. They love being involved with friends, clubs, and any activities that let them be with others.  ENFJs are often voted most congenial leaders in their school activities. As young adults, ENFJs set goals early on, both in the personal and professional realms. They follow through diligently and usually attain what they seek. They may sometimes feel pulled between financial gin and spiritual gain. In adult lives, they often settle into organization that have a value orientation for them to fulfill their needs being responsible spouses, employees and community members.  In retirement, ENFJs want to settle in an area where they have close friends or close personal ties to a specific organization and enjoy “to be needed”. 

 

Learning:

​ENFJs earn best in structured situations in which they can talk about the lesson and interact with their peers. They are willing to do what is required to become personally recognized by their teachers. ENFJs enjoy classes with subjects relating to people, their needs, their aspirations, and their characterizations and be good students with these subjects, especially when the teacher is warm and personal. 

 

Working:

 ENFJs prefer a work setting that contains individuals focused on changing things for the betterment of others. They tend to be attracted to occupations with a service orientation. They like environment that is people oriented, supportive and organized. They do the best when there is a spirit of harmony, with encouragement given for self-expression. They like their work to be settled and orderly, but not so much so that it is dull, quiet, unchanging, or unchallenging. They enjoy occupations such as actor, clergy, consultant, therapist, designer, musician, religious worker, writer, teacher etc that reflect their ideals and promote harmonious relationships.  

 

Leading:

​The ENFJ leadership style is a highly facilitative one. ENFJS include others and the desire to have a participative environment. They are responsive to their followers’ needs and yet are uncomfortable with conflicts. They inspire change, and that change is usually related toward some humanitarian purpose.   ENFJ manager had good relationship with everyone on his staff. He not only knew about their work life but knew many thing about them personally. When one staff member had a child in the hospital, the ENFJ quickly make adjustment to allow time for that person to be with the child. 

 

Leisure:

​The ENFJ puts relationships and responsibilities before personal leisure. If an ENFJ’s daughter needs a ride to a school event, the ENFJ will readily do so before preparing for an important meeting. ENFJs particularly enjoy reading novels and seeing movies to see how the characters play out the life issues. They enjoy discussing their reading and may join book groups. Because ENFJs value relationships, they are willing participants in organizations focusing on helping others. Therefore, many ENFJs join religious or community groups for better understanding between people.   ENFJs are often spokespersons for community or employee cause. 

 

Loving:

 For ENFJ, love means flowers, poetry candlelight dinners-in other words, romance with a capital R. When they first fall in love, they fall in love with ideal perspective of what the relationship will be, and they fall deeply, head over heels. ENFJs value commitment and loyalty and look for it from their partner. They typically enjoy activities with their partners that allow them to discuss the relationship and focus on what each person truly believe. When commitments are broken, ENFJs become upset as they see the breakup as a personal reflection on them. When scorned, they may be resentful, spiteful and deeply hurt. It’s difficult for them to break up, as they feel a sense of blame and shame for the relationship not working out.