ESFJ - The Care Giver

General:

​ESFJs are helpful people who place a high value on harmony. Paying close attention to people’s needs and wants, they work well with others to complete tasks in a timely and accurate way. ESFJs follow through on their commitments. They like closure and prefer structured, organized situations in which warmth and compassion are shown. They contribute to others by anticipating their day-to-day concerns and handling them with warmth and efficiency. 

 

Living:

​ESFJ Children want life to be uncomplicated, secure, harmonious, and structured. They are responsible, reliable, and cooperative. They enjoy the acceptance of others and will work hard to gain it. ESFJ children are concerned about doing the right things and pleasing their elders.  They are caring and helpful and begin early to assume responsibility for the welfare of others. They often volunteer their time in service organizations. ESFJs radiate warmth and fellowship, and easy to make friends because of their “listening ear” and helpful nature.  As young adults, they focus on their relationship and values. In adult life, Often the ESFJs follow a traditional pattern. They take their parent, spouse employee, or community volunteer roles seriously, sometimes more attuned to others’ needs than their own. For ESFJs, retirement means continuing to nurture and maintain the relationships. They keep their lives full of activities with people. 

 

Learning:

​ESFJ learn best in structured situations.They like to schedule their learning projects so that they can plan ahead to complete their lessons. They are not comfortable with interruptions and changes. More importantly, they want to like the person who teaches them. When there is disharmony in the classroom, it interrupts their learning,when their work is criticized, ESFJs may feel demoralized until they get it right and the teacher acknowledges this. ESFJs often enjoy studies about people and are less interested in theoretical and abstract subjects. They like active learning such as field trips, experiments, group projects, and those get them personally involved with others. 

 

Working: 

 ESFJ contribute their ability to cooperate with others and to complete tasks in a timely and accurate way. They respect rules and authority, and handle daily operations efficiently. ESFJs do what they can to make sure that personal relationships are running smoothly. ESFJ prefer a work environment that contains conscientious, cooperative, value-oriented people who work at helping others.  They tend to operate on facts and realities, liking things to be organized. They enjoy occupations such as childcare worker, dental assistant, elementary school teacher, nurse, office manager, radiologic technologist, receptionist and secretary, religious educator, coach etc.  

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Leading:

​ESFJ leadership style is one of leading through attention to personal values and the needs of others. When a situation requires someone to take charge and no one does, the ESFJ will often volunteer. ESFJs keep their people well informed and set a personal example of hard work to deliver commitment. Sometimes ESFJs may hesitate to act as quickly as needed with performance issues with concern to keep the relationship harmonious. 

 

Leisure:

​ESFJs believe that leisure is to be earned after work is completed. They prefer leisure activities that include others; They enjoy discussing books and movies or exploring the values-oriented aspects of life, such as family and community needs. ESFJs like leisure activities that are regularly scheduled. They plan social events for themselves and others. They use their leisure time to keep in contact with others, sometimes even planning which friends to call on which evenings. 

 

Loving:

​For the ESFJ, love means warmth and commitment. When ESFJ first fall in love, they show this warmth for their partner in many tangible ways. They will send cards, flowers, gifts, and other mementos of their affection. If the partner casually mentions a desire for a specific thing, the ESFJ will try to find just that thing. Once committed in a relationship, ESFJs tend to stay longer than may be healthy. They are able to bring out the best in their partners, even though it may mean putting their own needs second.  Because others may not be as thoughtful as they are, and their standard for giving are likely higher, it is a possible source of disappointment when they expect the same on the part of the partner.